How can this be?
The notion of what a “friend” is, is far too ego-strokingly seductive to our self-esteem to be productive. We base friendship on who we like.
Who we like is based on our logic.
Our logic is based on information acquired.
Under healthy circumstances, this is as it should be, but right now, most of the information we use has been acquired from those who do not like us. Consequently, we choose friends based on likes that the enemy likes us to like. Consequently, we choose “feel good” friends that fundamentally do us no good. The word friend has gotten us mixed up and messed up just as much as the word love and the word beauty and so many other words that we think are personal preferences, but are not. In other words, we do not choose friends based on some unique individual set of criteria that we possess. Instead we are taught who to choose as friends. Now it's time to reassess and simply get rid of both friends and enemies.
Skipping & Re-Flipping From End To BeginningThe designation of ourselves as “friends” is a recent term. It has come about at the end of this process and cycle of human experience. In earlier times, we recognized life as being first and foremost a continuous spiritual journey. This spiritual journey is not a walk in the park, stroll, cruise or a vacation. It is a war. War does not begin or end based on who we like and who we consider friends.
War is what it is.
War is spiritual, ongoing and nonstop. War exists every moment everywhere. There is no one and no creation who is immune from war and who is not always in the midst of war. War began in the heavens and we are smack dab in it, participating on one side or the other. Mothers don't have children. Mothers give birth to soldiers.
Mother Frances Cress-Welsing reminded us of this. Every person you meet falls into only two categories.
1. A soldier on one spiritual side.
2. A soldier on the other spiritual side. Focusing on who is a friend and who is an enemy will cause us to be distracted fighting battles...while the war rages on. War is not personal, it is Universal.
In the Universal lies the beginning and end of war.
Micro wars have friends and enemies. Macro war only has soldiers.
Soldiers don't give a damn if you like them. They only care if you are fighting the same enemy and not doing things to prevent others from fighting the same enemy. Friendship is for times of peace, when we can actually relax and not be attacked in no way, shape, form or fashion.
Friendship is inappropriate while soldiers from the other side are in our midst acting like they are bullet-proof, teflon-coated, not guilty and unstoppable. If you insist on using friendship as a main criteria, you will misidentify soldiers. All it takes is one misidentification to put an end to the tour of duty of a life you could have saved. Judgment day is everyday. Judgment day is not just about you and not about “biblical sins.”
For those who are still in love with friendship:
During times of peace, when there are no soldiers from the other side in our midst, everyone is a friend. Friendship is the reward, the payoff, for being a soldier.