The Art of Conversation

Far too often communication languishes as a basic exchange called talking. Common inquiries such as “What did you do? How are you doing? and “Whatcha gonna do...? are followed by a predictable assortment of answers. A generic smattering of weather, mainstream media and holiday happenings complete the informative second round. Then comes the discussion of important issues like other people's lives and sports. The score so far...distractions: plenty; significant things: nothing.

A comeback is possible once we quit talking and start practicing the art of conversation. Conversation is not just filling up time with words and questions. It involves adding to the discussion by sharing thoughtful remarks, insights, expanding topics, adding new topics and following the flow. Conversation explores reasons, motivations, ideas and beliefs. It is enhanced when we wait for segues and appreciate silences. Conversation should be different with different people on the same day. It should be different with the same people on different days. Conversation allows us to learn useful things including the many levels of each other's character and personality over time.

Conversation takes us towards understanding while talking just takes up time and is uninspiring. Conversation allows us to explore, express and encourage the existence of love, hope, courage, bravery, confidence, strength, overcoming, enduring, faith, freedom, truth...

Conversation, like art, is a catalyst for change.

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