Hold 'Em Or Fold 'EmWe know interest, liking and loving require different levels of understanding. How is it then, we are satisfied to maintain a belief speculation at the same relative level of understanding for years even while acquiring more information? What kind of relationship is based on information more than it is on understanding? Our relationships with our belief speculations should change over time - some being promoted and some demoted. Speculation beliefs, liking and possibilities are supposed to come and go and change, if we are properly developing using an optimization process.
Understanding Self Is The ProcessUnless understanding of self is consciously used to assess likes, dislikes and speculation beliefs, the results of our thought processes, must reveal someone else's understanding of us. All the sources that teach us who we are, are the real decision makers who teach us what to like dislike, speculate believe and understand. This must be so because decisions are based on information in our logic. Where did this information come from? More universally substantiating information about self is needed in order to breed a universal thing such as love and in order to bond to understanding rather than be bound by belief speculation.
By the default of their nature of being easy to adopt, interests, likes and belief speculations begin out of much narrower contexts than the context of love and understanding.
In order to love someone, there must be a greater understanding of self and of the other person that transcends the differences and connects the essences.In order to come to know something we believe speculate, there must be a growing understanding of self and of that philosophy that connects the core of self to the core of the philosophy.
Faked Out On A FeelingDespite their usefulness, strong feelings can be wrong feelings. We can be faked out by our feelings when we are using an insufficient thought process and when understandings of self are insufficient to help us make the proper assessments.
As a result, we tend to call strongly felt liking by the name of loving and we have a habit of calling long-held belief speculations by the name of knowing.
The weight of meaning in those words will reveal the weakness of the foundation of understanding. The relationship cannot withstand natural encounters and will result in the extremes of clinging co-dependency with further loss of identity or the result will be distancing and the relationship being more about something to be a part of rather than being about co-unity.
In addition, the responsibility and rights that come with knowing and loving, will be abused as we use our creative genetic potential genius based on lesser understanding mistaken as greater understanding. We will dedicate large amounts of life and other resources to doing things passionately that are significantly suboptimal and which move us steadily into greater degrees of weakness and vulnerability. Haven't our belief speculations placed us in an ever-increasing precarious position? All this because we say we love and we say we know. We do so without understanding the essences of self in relation to the essences of all else. Thus, essential decisions without understandings that are essential to all decisions, leaves us with no choice but to make decisions based on far less essential understandings.
All this because we have been taught that today's societies have uncovered the civilizing philosophies of paradise found. So, we confidently construct lives on wood chip and fabric foundations.