"Free and critical minds can emerge only by a return to the source-the primary sources. A free and critical mind takes nothing for granted and is not intimidated by "authorities" who frequently may be more confused than the general public. Free and critical minds seek truth without chauvinism or shame." - Dr. Asa G. Hilliard III (1)



“One single bit of information, if missing, incomplete, out of order or just plain wrong, has the potential to significantly alter thought processes, conclusions, decisions and behaviors, even when that one single logic entry exists in a sea of accuracy.”


Thursday, April 18, 2013

Inherited Self-Esteem Hand-Me-Downs, Habits & Peer Pressure Context And So Continues The Meaning Of Life & Existence (Part 7e)

In previous posts, the following is covered:

1. An improper worldview has the potential to impact genetics.
2. Optimal health requires optimal awareness and attention. The health of parents extends to children.
3. Raising a child's self-awareness is how a child develops self-esteem. This is inherited because it depends on parental personal growth.
4. All that is from the same parental lineage shares spiritual genetics. Genetics can be altered spiritually.

These four things are among the things every person inherits. Some are handed down from parents to children and some are handed down from caregivers to children. Like all hand-me-downs, how well others take care of them, matters. Parents/caregivers influence their children's ability to develop awareness of their entire selves and thus the meaning of life & existence.

Defining Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is not simply a feel good feeling. It is not determined by simply thinking or feeling self-esteem exists. We cannot bring self-esteem into existence by strongly stating, “I love myself, I feel good about myself, I know who I am.” Appreciation requires appropriate information.

Self-esteem is knowledge of self. This means we must be in possession of actual knowledge of our mental aspect, emotional aspect, physical aspect and spiritual aspect. This requires ongoing nutrition for each aspect and a growing understanding of each aspect. Our degree of awareness must equal or exceed our intended level of development based on age. Most importantly, self-esteem cannot fully exist without an intimate relationship with the rest of the natural world - mental knowledge alone is insufficient, we must commune with our kinfolk.

Self-Esteem Is Learned Through Habits

A habit is something we choose and then choose to repeat as a representation of our self-concept and self-image. A good habit supports the four basic inseparable aspects of self development: emotion, body, spirit and mind. Good habits are just like nutrition because they are: nutrition for life. Nutrition leads to health. Health means taking care of the four basic inseparable aspects that define self. Since knowledge of self is self-esteem, good habits lead to increasing levels of self-esteem.

A bad habit is the absence of a good habit.

Well-rounded people complete their circle by having habits that support overall development and habits that target specific areas of development.

Overall Habits

Self-study, practice and exercise of being human in relation to fellow beings in the natural world.
Self-study of history (the background of something), especially personal beliefs. Our beliefs come from somewhere, therefore each belief has a history. Those who care to find out are those who care about themselves.
In other words, if we do not know where our beliefs come from, we cannot have self-esteem. Only the illusion exists.
“Self-study means more than just studying on our own. It also means studying self.” This includes practicing what we've learned as we are learning. Practicing includes having conversations to practice thinking and to practice maintaining a balanced emotional response when we are unsure or when information contradicts ours.

Habits That Target Specific Areas

A habit that improves one of our aspects also improves the other three. If this is not true, then a habit we think is good, isn't.

Physical
Eating what is intended for human animals in the manner intended.
A range of activity that naturally engages all muscles and systems.
Getting rest, sunlight and other celestial light.
Avoiding toxins in the environment, in personal products and in what we choose to open our mouths and swallow.
Self-study, practice and exercise of the physical aspect of self.

Spiritual
Communing.
Making sure the work we do and the jobs we have, are in agreement with how our spirit is telling us we should use our passions, purposes and gifts.
Honoring our shared existence with fellow citizens of Creation.
Ignoring any teaching that does not honor our shared existence with fellow creatures of Creation.
Giving and receiving encouragement and appreciation.
Having conversations as opposed to talking about stuff.
Learning human history.
Interacting with cool people.
Self-study, practice and exercise of the spiritual aspect of self.

Emotional
Avoiding toxic relationships with people.
Avoiding toxic relationships with ideologies by not choosing them as personal beliefs.
Self-study, practice and exercise of the emotional aspect of self.

Mental
Critically assess ourselves, our thoughts, what we read, what we watch, what we listen to, who we talk to, what we talk about, what we study, what we are taught, what we practice, what we investigate, what we analyze, and more.
Avoiding the toxin of distraction.
Self-study, practice and exercise of the mental aspect of self.

Self-Esteem Is Choices & Decisions

Since habits are choices, we decide whether or not we are developing self-esteem. So even though we don't always get what we deserve, we usually get what we decide we deserve.

Some habits are only appropriate for a certain stage of development. Therefore, some of our habits, though good at the time, must be upgraded. The same is true for habits that dictate our way of thinking.

Let's be clear. There is no such thing as a good habit that does not support self-development. So those of us who think we're doing good but are not progressing in the knowledge of self, do not have good habits, regardless. All else is folly.

Taking this a step further, good habits can only come from good ideas. Good ideas can only come from a good context. If we trace the source of good ideas and bad ideas we will end up in two different worldviews – guaranteed.

For example, those who are serious about health will move towards eating whole food and eventually end up in their own gardens. Those who aren't will move towards grocers and restaurants and end up in checkout lines.

All of us who desire health/fulfillment must backtrack and trace the origin of our ideas about anything that affects our ability to live as intended. If this is done properly we will all end up in one of two places. Most of us will end up in both places. Since these places are far removed from each other, it is detrimental to health to be pulled in two different directions. As a result, whatever side has the most force and is able to pull us, wins influence over us. Then, according to whichever side has won, we either develop more good habits or allow them to fade into bad habits.

For example, many of us sacrifice physical health, mental health and spiritual health for jobs. Most people know they cannot be who they are at their jobs. They cannot be their true selves. Having a job requires denial of self and acceptance of becoming someone else every day. When we must program ourselves to go into an automatic operating mode of daily pretension, it gets harder each day to separate our true selves from the illusion. As a result, though we may not realize this is the reason, many of us hate our jobs but endure them for the money. This is a self-hate crime because we are trading what is good about us (health) for a toxic relationship (job).* We allow jobs to win influence over our decision-making which leads to bartering our health for money. Meanwhile we are tricked by the allure of having health care coverage which is like a person who can see, relying on a seeing eye dog to cross the street. We willingly put our health in the hands of health care. Jobs are just jobs and “benefits” are bait and switch carrots, but health, which is knowledge of self, is everything. This is why, “Man Know Thyself” was often spoken and always written over the entryway of the schools of Kemet, in pyramids, tombs and on papyri. (1)

Teach your children to know themselves, then allow that to guide them the rest of the way. Going to college and obtaining a degree Is Not the key. Growing from knowledge of self and obtaining the 360th degree, is the key to life.


*We lie, pretend and beg to get them, pray to get them, thank God we have them, dread going to them, are more excited about days off, can't wait to quit them, dream one long, grueling dream of retiring from them and call them blessings. WTF!?

Parents/caregivers, Do Not show preference for this bad habit and set your children up for a crazy relationship that's the same as I hate you but I need you and though you try to make me into what you need, you tell me everyone can be replaced and still I hang around as long as you will have me and yet I don't know what I would do without you.

Handling Responsibility

As mentioned in Part 7c, it the responsibility of parents/caregivers to guide children in the development of emotion, body, mind and spirit; therefore it is the responsibility of parents/caregivers to guide children in the development of good habits that result in knowledge of self, thus self-esteem.

The personal growth and development habits of parents/caregivers are not just habit-forming for children. Whatever parents/caregivers do or don't do and whatever we provide or don't provide affects the health of children.

Habits are building blocks that influence whether children are constructive, destructive or not fully either. Children who understand this can take responsibility for their own habits. They do not need anyone's permission or agreement because each person's spirit is the highest authority.

Inherited Self-Esteem Is A Spirit Hand-Me-Down

“Though habits are acquired by choice or retained by choice, a person is not fully defined by what is acquired. A person is a person because of what he or she is.”(2)

What every person is, is a spirit being. This is good news for children of any age and especially the younger ones. Younger children (those who do not yet consider themselves grown-ups) are more likely to still be searching for information to define themselves.

Whenever we search for something openly, honestly and with determination, we are likely to find it. This allows us to find our spirit connection and get back on track. Children are then able to follow the habits of Divine Parental Guidance. With these original habits influencing them, children will find their natural selves, grow in knowledge of self and self-esteem. These children will be fulfilled because they will focus their efforts and resources into the habits listed above.

So, even if our parents/caregivers do not pass on good habits, the spirit's got our back. It has Plan A for us. Plan A consists of habits grounded in the natural world. As descendents of spirit, we must look inward and upward to intuition and wisdom to receive this inheritance of always free hand-me-downs. These hand-me-downs from the Supreme are more powerful than our human genetics.
Good habits are stronger than peer-pressure. Good habits help us move towards positive peer pressure and away from negative peer pressure.
Read Part 7f - Definition: Human Genetics' Changing Influences & Responses Context And So Continues The Meaning Of Life & Existence (Part 7f)

Related:
Study Perspectives: Esperanza Spalding, Spirit Motion & Intended Greatness Context And So Continues The Meaning Of Life & Existence (Part 6)
Temples Built With Cellular Nutrition. Food Fight #41
Hidden Costs Poem - Finding Money & Other Valuables By Applying Resources Differently
My Big Break – Part I
Break Away, Still Away (My Big Break – Part II)
Mental Preparation & The Basics Of Performance
True Power Comes From Knowing Yourself

Notes:
(1) Ben-Jochannan, Yosef, Africa: Mother of Western Civilization (Black Classic Press: 1988), pp. 452, 677.
(2) Asante, Molefi Kete and Mazama, Ama Editors, “Encyclopedia Of African Religion,” (2009) p. 523.

6 comments:

  1. *We lie, pretend and beg to get them, pray to get them, thank God we have them, dread going to them, are more excited about days off, can't wait to quit them, dream one long, grueling dream of retiring from them and call them blessings.

    Would love to quit work but I have this nasty habit such as eating, wearing nice clothes, having a nice car to drive and a nice roof over my head and all the necessities of life and of course access to internet is a must... so yeah, if it wasn't for the money, I'd quit! But I am thankful to have a job that God has blessed me with. If you know the secret of getting the bills paid without having to work, please do share.....

    ReplyDelete
  2. By using all resources and putting them into fundamental blessings such as the natural world. This includes having land and using it to feed ourselves. This allows us to begin to build lives with a foundation from the same God who blesses us with jobs. Food from the source does not depend on the economy or the “food” system. Many still do this today and it was done for tens of thousands of years before money and before depending on things outside of communal living.
    The “damned if we do/starve if we don't” scenario is exactly the illusion capitalistic societies need citizens to falsely believe in, in order to continue to make us beholden to its systems. Among the many problems these societies systematically create is an inequitable distribution of natural resources, thus planned hardship and suffering.
    We must begin to transition in earnest towards what is mentioned in:

    Unbreakable Evolution: Higher Purpose Coming Out
    Our Fatal Flaw – The Absence Of Harmony. The Root Cause Of Many Problems.
    Day 5: Choosing To Succeed Or Fail
    Expanded Definitions: What Is Money? Quotes, Proverbs & A Joke

    ReplyDelete
  3. So I take it that you no longer work? It is good if you can live off of the land. I do believe God will take care of us...this brings to my mind the verse Matthew 6:26 Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? God will provide a way for us. Although I may get tired of my job sometimes, I am thankful that God has blessed me with my health to be able to work. I give all praise to Him. For without Christ, I am nothing.

    ReplyDelete
  4. This is exactly the point covered in "Unbreakable Evolution: Higher Purpose Coming Out."

    I'm assuming you read the links in the above comment and also, as always should be the case, have read the links in the article to gain fuller understanding.

    Your response also indicates what is mentioned in the article, "Many of us will end up in both places."
    Place #1 - God will feed us without need for us to put all our energies, talents and choices into keeping a job.
    Place #2 - Thank God I can go to work.

    There is acknowledgement but not readiness. There is knowledge but not commitment. Thanks is given for health to be able to go to work but yet no thanks is given to the blessing of the natural world from which health comes. There is no movement towards going back in stages to a natural existence. There is the sense that the natural way is good but it's not for you. Just keep me healthy God (without me relying on the natural world) so I can continue to work a tiring, unpurposed, unhealthy job.

    As said in "Day 9: Harmony Is Energy Conservation" - "Energy is an essence of life. When something runs counter to the spirit, we feel physically, mentally and spiritually drained. It literally sucks the life out of us." and “For many, work is a culprit that depletes energy on all levels. All the labour of man is for his mouth, and yet the appetite is not filled.

    If we continue with the same habits, despite this, we place ourselves into a self-created dichotomy dilemma. Because we try to live one way and speak another, we live an incongruent life - words and actions do not match. We become like Peter before he got his life together - talking but not walking - following God, but not too close so as not to be distinguishable from the multitude or not too close so I won't have to have the kind of faith that would require me to change my way of thinking and my ways. So I take it you want to please God?

    Everyone knows, when following someone trying to get somewhere, the best advice is "Stay close so you don't get lost and I won't lose you." There is no closer place to God on Earth than the natural world.

    ReplyDelete
  5. I kinda sorta know what you are saying, God created this world that we live in so we should feel close to God when we are in sync with the natural world. I believe God intended it to be this way but then sin entered into this world and it is now corrupt. Jesus himself said His kingdom is not of this world. So that's where I long to be. To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. As long as we are in this world, there will be troubles and trials that we must endure. We all have a cross to bear. I'm sure it wasn't easy for Jesus to bear the cross for our sins but he did it because He loves us and so that we may have eternal life. When Jesus ascended to heaven, He said He would return. I believe we are truly living in the Last Days. Everyday as we watch international news, we witness the unfolding of the Book of Revelation.

    ReplyDelete
  6. I have noticed over the years, the more money I make, the more I spend and deeper in debt I become. One big mistake I've made is credit cards...seems you pay and pay but never get it paid off. So I will probably never get to quit work. I guess we all must live and learn...

    ReplyDelete

See Comment Policy Below