Defining Love By Process Of Elimination
In a malnutrition state of mind, we define love using junk food information fed to us by unhealthy societies. We go about trying to find something (love) from something that is lost itself (society). We use movies, school books, “holy” books, other books, magazines, newspapers, songs, internet and television. We listen to others who get their information from the same places.Wrong Way
On some roads there are signs that say “Wrong Way.” These signs are also on the road to finding love. Due to misinformation, what is wrong has become so common, it seems normal and right. Also, even when it feels wrong, since most people are taking the same route, it must be right. No wonder we look for love in places and in people that are wrong. The places and people are not wrong themselves, just not right for us because we do not complement each other based on who we are at that time.From Other Relationships
We sometimes define love using the teachings of well-intentioned others who have learned bits and pieces from trial and error. Getting the definition of love from other people's relationships is the long way around which requires multiple times around. It is also an uncertain way. Other relationships are secondary sources of information about love. Understanding the exact nature of the many interrelations involved in someone else's relationship is not an easy thing to achieve; therefore, understandings obtained from secondary sources can mislead - not always, but if we rely on them, we must proceed with extreme caution.Searching For Love In The Dark
Searching for something without knowledge of what it is, is the same as trying to find something in the dark. When it comes to darkness caused by lots of misinformation, there is no adaptation to it, only mutation and variations of mutations. The ways we go about finding love and defining love get more abnormal and more unhealthy. This eventually leads us to places where our behavior reflects the desperation and frustration of the thought processes we are using. Even so, we keep searching in the dark, because we still don't know there is a much better way. We keep bumping into others doing the same thing and assuming they must be right for us because they're available and because they agree. Since we are both still in the dark, we stumble through a relationship bumping heads, toes and hearts against each other. We return hurts in exchange for receiving pains. What is still not plain is who's to blame. If one of us was right and looking for love using the light of knowledge, that person would have gotten out of the way of the person looking for love in the dark. Since neither of us got out of each other's way, both of us must have been looking for the same thing in the same way. Each of us was on the wrong two tracks at the same time and place and thus, we met and agreed to a slow collision course of values. Each of us tried to move forward in the same way we were already headed when we met, while trying to stay connected and in the same place. This, of course, creates the predictable common situation where one or both of us try to change the other around to our flow. This means we try to change the other person's behavior which means we try to change the other person's thought processes.Change does not happen without force. Thought processes only change through higher self manipulation or lower self manipulation. Since our relationship is in an unhealthy position due to junk food information, which feeds the lower self, this indicates what type of manipulation is usually taking place. Trickery is used to try to get what can't be obtained normally because the conditions are not conducive to finding love.
