Raising Children
Let's examine the statement:
Sometimes you can raise children right and they can still go wrong.
#1 - “Sometimes”
If it only happens “sometimes,” what is the difference between children who “go right” and children who “go wrong?” We must make sure we're making accurate detailed comparisons.
Is there a difference between older and younger siblings? If so, perhaps the learning curve of parenting is partly responsible. Also, some parents go through a reverse learning curve and will somehow forget when raising younger children.
#2 - Did Parents Do Their Job?
Before parents state we raised children right, we at least need one detailed example of raising a child right and the child not “going wrong.” If not, it would be more mature for parents to reexamine ourselves than to make children our scapegoats.
This reexamination must include looking at our parents, grandparents and great grandparents. We must gain as much understanding of their lives, circumstances and the people they were and became. All these things influence the people we are and the parents we become.
It may be helpful for parents to make a list of all the things a child needs. Then seek reliable outside sources to make sure nothing major has been overlooked.
This list should be detailed since parenting must also flow back and forth between big and little pictures and cover a variety of areas beyond the surface and the obvious. This list should contain a section that provides for adjustments for the individuality of each child. This list should contain a section that provides for adjustments for the continuous learning gained from the personal growth and development of the parents.
Children Need Parents & Communal Support
I'm sure a lot of parents do a lot of things they should in raising their children but even so, if communal support is not involved, children will be deficient in some area. Why? Children and you and me are diverse, highly capable creations full of potential that require a variety of nutritional inputs from a variety of sources. Two very good parents are still not enough because they are still a limited diet when it comes to the full range of needs each person has.
It is critical to everyone's survival to recreate community that consists of communal values. It is critical if we are to thrive.
Mounting An Offense
If parenting and communal support are inherently good then the inherent goodness of children will be preserved with few exceptions.
It is possible for parents to do everything they kn0w to do and still raise a child in a deficient way because something is missing in the parental/communal lineage. We must stop this process and re-infuse all resources into ourselves and our children so our grandchildren will get the full range of preparedness.
Nothing is more clearer, to raise children we must raise ourselves.
If there's one thing all children deserve is a good defense. It is their Creator-given right and a parental/communal responsibility. The inherent goodness of children must be protected from the start. This can be accomplished with a good home offense based on raising self-awareness and levels of nutrition.
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In order for human racism to continue to exist, it must be taught to the children. Racial disharmony IS CAUSED BY one branch of humans actively keeping individuals within their branch, off balance, thus out of harmony with the universal, the rest of the natural world and each other. In this weakened, off-center condition, these individuals can only manifest their humanness and not their spirit essence (there's no connection). This individual disharmony must, and does, lead to disharmony in relationships of all types. (From, Occupy Harmony, Racial Solution Is Spiritual Power & Repentance)
How can we have peace in the Middle East
When there's none at home?
How can we have understanding in the land
When there's none in the woman
And there's none in the man?
How can we heal the wounds of the world
If we cannot heal our own?
And where does this peace on earth begin
If not in the home?
Where do we go now?
Do we let the devil win
Or do we get up and fight?
Surely we know how to conquer all our fear
Bring an end to the violence
Bring an end to the tears
Well, there's too much talk about it
And too many walk without it
Where is the love?
Where is the God in your life?
To my left a woman abuses her children
To my right somebody's beating his wife
Tell me, where is the love?
Where is the God in your life?
