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Marriage is for the purpose of children, family, community and then self.
The constant consideration is how does this relationship benefit all of these priorities simultaneously?
Once you find a relationship that benefits these areas, embrace the relationship, even if you are not married.
Do not allow your desire and drive to be married to override the obviousness of another person's good heart.
By good heart I also mean good spirit and good mind. They are one.
Marriage on paper (or officially as some might call it) first requires the marriage of feminine and masculine energies.
There is commitment and partnership and working together when energies build in this fashion. I'm not talking about energies merging as the result of casual connection. This is partial, incomplete and leaves one feeling weak. Married energy strengthens, heals.
Build on this truth without allowing the desire and drive to be married to direct your thinking, behaviors and the spiritual safari this union is embarking on as two, as one and as each other. All simultaneously.
A friend is a fountain of youth and a lover who is a friend only adds sweetness to pure waters.
Divorce yourself from the idea of marriage and embrace experiencing the principles of marriage so you may be married properly and more perfectly.
A good heart is a blessing to encounter. May all your relationships stand on this understanding, rise on its overstanding and flourish from its innerstanding.
