Too Many Relationships Bigger Than They Should BeUnity Consciousness #2864

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No single relationship can be the bulk of your life experience, at least not in a healthy way for either person.
Each relationship is a part of life, a part only, not whole, not half, not half as in other half, or as in better half or as in you complete me.
Keep each relationship in perspective, even if you love each other.
Do not allow any single human relationship of any type to be the bulk of your existence.
Nobody can complete you and no single thing can complete you.
Completion is the result of many parts of self working towards optimal beingness.

As indicated in the previous message, two people can just not be the right match in a romantic way or even in a platonic friendship way.
Continue to invest in self-improvement if you feel you need to, but do so only in the name of health, not for somebody else. However, truth is, even though you must put self first, if you love someone else, then you will work on your own self-improvement so that you can be a better person in the relationship with someone else.

In greater detail, put yourself first in terms of finding out and maturing in understanding who you are, where you came from and why you are here (what you should be putting your resources into, and understanding this in priority order).

It is harmful to children to put everything into them at the expense of self. Truth is, when that is attempted, what happens is that the child gets less and less because the parent is not fulfilled when self is put on hold, but instead is drained and behavior becomes more strange.
Parents are people and must continue to mature in their beingness.
No one can obtain or remain healthy and whole by investing everything into any single thing, such as children, spouse, job, house, church, friends, family, some other pursuit or somebody else's notion of these things, that your spirit-soul knows, something ain't right, but instead is, upsetting your peace, balance, harmony.

You cannot make anybody happy.
Nobody can make you happy.
Happiness emerges out of dynamic balance with the two-part ecosystem of self and all else. Simply put, happiness is Maat.
Happiness is not to be confused with fun, elation, thrill, desire, acceptance, validation, success, destiny, soulmate, fulfillment, love, contentment, wholeness, self-esteem, self-worth and other opiates suboptimally defined.